Penulis: Recita Naura
AS much as I wanted to keep someone in my life, I couldn’t.
After going through a battle between my heart and my mind, I realized I had to let him go to protect myself. My mind tried to be logical, to remind me of what I deserve. But my heart still craved what it used to feel. It wanted what it wanted, even if it hurt me.
But at the end of the day, I only have myself. And that’s why I need to keep myself safe. Secure. Rooted in peace.
Because the only way to get that kind of peace… is to remove the very thing that disrupts it.
You Don’t Unlove Someone. You Just Learn To Love Them Differently.
I read that quote from Catherine Paiz (she used to have a family YouTube channel, but now she’s focused on healing and just dropped her first book about her journey) She said something that is constantly stays in my mind.
And it’s true.
You don’t just stop loving someone. But as time passes, the way you love them changes. Not with longing. Not with desperation. But with distance. With gentleness.
You begin to accept them for who they’ve shown you they truly are, not the version you created in your mind. And you begin to see that maybe they came into your life just to help you learn. Learn to let go, to turn attachment into acceptance.
Happiness Can’t Come From What You Can’t Control
You’re not supposed to cling to what’s external. To people, validation, or temporary comfort. Because those things can shift. They can fade. They can walk away.
But you stay.
You’re the only person you’ll never walk away from. And that’s why your peace, your joy, your sense of home, it really has to start from within you. You can’t control how others change. But you can choose to grow, to heal, and to love yourself better each time.
That’s why I finally realized:
Self-love isn’t optional. It’s survival.
You have to do it, even when it’s hard, even when you don’t want to.
Of course, there are moments when I get bored. When solitude feels heavy. That’s human. But I’ve learned how to carry myself through those moments.
With writing like this.
With long, quiet walks.
With a book in my hands and music in my ears.
With painting, or even just staring at the sky and breathing in stillness. (let’s be real I also do tiktoks). There are always things that bring joy, within yourself.
You just have to notice them.
You just have to return to yourself. ***
